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Not my turn to be first
One of the perogatives of being the first-born is that you get to do everything first. You take it for granted. You're older, thus you hit all the milestones first. It seems like its just the natural order of the universe, especially in my case where I am almost four years older than my sibling. Well, that trend is over. Margaretis thirteen weeks pregnant.

It should come as no surprise to anyone that I have mixed feelings about this news. I love my sister, and I'm insanely proud of her and want her to be happy. I want her to have kids, preferably as many as she wants. It just seems a little unfair seeing as how I've been trying for so much longer.

I must say that Margaret was really tactful about breaking the news. She asked me about the latest on my situation and the surgery first. When she did tell me, I think my reaction was less than she was hoping for. I tried to be funny, but I think it came out wrong. She pointed out that I got to do a lot of things first, like go to college and get married. She's got a good point, I just hope it doesn't take me too much longer.

The baby is due January 12th. I need to start knitting again so I can make stuff for it.</lj-cut

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remcat From: remcat Date: July 18th, 2006 01:06 pm (UTC) (Link)
Ah, I know how that must sting. I'm proud of you for handling it so well. It has been one of my biggest worries -- when pregnant, how to break the news to friends who want to be but aren't? At least once I have done a terrible job of it.

I'll say "congratulations Auntie"! And (if it won't jinx you), that it will be so nice for YOUR baby to have a cousin near in age. (If that is a jinx, I said something else instead.)

If you need to put off the knitting, you can take as an excuse that is is freakin' unbelievable hot. Blah.
chenoameg From: chenoameg Date: July 18th, 2006 01:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
Yeah, I'm not sure how I'll deal if my sister gets pregnant before I do. I really want to be supportive and tell her to go for it and that now would be a great time for her to start her family and what is she waiting for?

But I can't because I can't imagine the pain I would be in if she did.
enugent From: enugent Date: July 18th, 2006 10:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
Good for you for saying the right things to Margaret and then coming here to vent. I really hope that the surgery does the trick and you end up with a pair of same-age cousins who can have lots of fun together.

And I found Blu to be a nice pattern for a baby of unknown gender. The yarn is light enough to be comfortable to knit even in the summertime.
merastra From: merastra Date: July 18th, 2006 11:17 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oy. Yeah, a lot of mixed feelings...

Well, I hope your turn comes very soon.
remcat From: remcat Date: July 23rd, 2006 02:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
Say, do you read "So Close"? She put up an interesting post about her relationship with her sister (who had three children while Tertia was dealing with infertility).
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