May 15th, 2012

Mommy Doll

About The Bad People

Now that the weather is warm, Margaret’s ability to open the front door by herself presents certain issues. Over the past month or so I’ve gone through a couple of renditions of what I expect to be the first of many serious conversations. I have begun explaining about the bad people.

There are bad people in this world, bad people who sometimes steal little kids and hurt them. I worry about that and I don’t want that happening to my babies, so you must not go out into the front yard without me or Hongmei or Daddy. You need to stay where I can see you so that I can keep you safe.

When I delivered the talk again yesterday she seemed to be getting it. “I could get a bad boo-boo?” I agreed, that yes she could get a very bad boo-boo, and declined to muddy the issue by explaining that a boo-boo was the very least of my worries. I don’t want to scare her, or come off like I’m worrying over nothing. I just want to explain the truth to her in simple terms that a not-quite-four-year-old can understand, because while I like to believe that most people in the world are basically good or at least well-intentioned, there are some very bad people out there who if given the opportunity might very well snatch a wandering child off the street and do unspeakable things. I don’t want to waste too much energy worrying about it, but it is my job to keep my kids safe so it must always be in the back of my mind, and so help me if any bad people try to hurt my kids a bad boo-boo will be the very least of their worries.