From: psychohist	Date: September 28th, 2009 10:02 pm (UTC)		(Link)

It is indeed a major relief.

We would like a third if we can do it without cutting the breast feeding short on the second, and if we still think we can handle three once we have two. After all, the replacement rate is higher than two.

What kind of incredulity are we likely to encounter?

	From: enugent	Date: September 28th, 2009 11:46 pm (UTC)		(Link)

(This is based on stories I've heard from friends with three.) I would expect a certain number of "Why are you putting yourself through IVF again? You have two already!" When your first two are of the same sex, it seems to be excusable in these people's minds to "try again for a boy" (or girl), but they just can't wrap their minds around the idea of voluntarily having more children than you have hands. I know several people who have been told (sometimes by their own parents) that they are "selfish" or "greedy" for wanting a third baby.

But maybe you'll be lucky and all of your friends will have their mouth-brain filters engaged, either from politeness or from fear of Elizabeth. :)

	From: psychohist	Date: September 29th, 2009 02:12 am (UTC)		(Link)

I wouldn't mind talking to them about it.

With respect to the "one of each", I'm actually kind of worried about that, as neither Elizabeth nor I had opposite sex siblings. While we're happy with a boy, we weren't particularly looking for "one of each", as Margaret already has four male cousins and no female ones.