Log in

No account? Create an account
entries friends calendar profile Previous Previous Next Next
Progress - Elizabeth Unexplained
Lots of data but no answers
Today was my first full day in the office, so that makes the transition back to work complete. It was a busy day, though I did have plenty of time to worry that my baby was hungry and crying while I was stuck on a 3.5 hour conference call. When I got home Warren was there, but Jomkwan and Margaret were out for a walk. I was very pleased when they arrived home 15 minutes later. Margaret was calm and content. Jomkwan had managed to coax her into taking a total of six ounces via bottle, a new record.

This is yet another reason why I am glad we went with an au pair program. I want Margaret to have the sort of attention that the battle of the bottle requires. Of course different people make different choices for different reasons. I was talking to one co-worker last week, and she had mentioned that she had gone with day care instead of a nanny because she worried about the lack of oversight. She felt that a place with several carers was a better guarantee of responsible behavior. I actually feel exactly the opposite, that having a few people in charge of a group of infants will create a SEP field, and the babies won't necessarily get any more attention than they would with a nanny who watched TV all day as the co-worker feared. I think the decision of which way to go all boils down to your personal biases. I know there are bad nannies out their, after all my sister fired one when she discovered that she hadn't changed the baby's diaper all day. Likewise there are certainly excellent day care programs out there. What it comes down to is that I prefer to gamble on my own hiring decision, and so far it's looking to me like I made a pretty good choice.

4 comments or Leave a comment
enugent From: enugent Date: October 2nd, 2008 05:22 am (UTC) (Link)
I take it that pumping is going OK, then, if there were six ounces available for her to eat? (I have to admit that I am boggling somewhat at the amounts she eats during the day, since Howard is packing away 13-15 ounces in a typical day now - three 4.5-ounce bottles and sometimes an extra 2-ouncer. Is she nursing a lot at night to make up for it?)

I'm really glad it's going well. You guys are very fortunate to have a house setup that lets you give Jomkwan her own apartment - I bet that made it a lot easier to get a good au pair.
greyautumnrain From: greyautumnrain Date: October 2nd, 2008 08:13 am (UTC) (Link)
I am pumping 8 ounces during the day and another 3 at night, so staying ahead of demand in the current system is doable. If she suddenly decided that bottles are just fine and starts taking a lot more I will be in trouble. I have no clue how much she normally takes. She liked to nurse frequently, but she generally didn't seem to be taking a whole lot. She just seems to like nursing. If she suddenly wanted 15 ounces a day I'd be in trouble. I am hoping that I can keep up until the end of the month when she has her four month checkup (two weeks late, but that's ok). I'd like to ask her doctor about starting her on solids then, and assuming he gives the green light we'll go ahead with that.

As to the space, I deliberately did not advertise the face that we had an entire empty apartment available when looking for an au pair. It is really nice to have, but I didn't want an au pair to choose us because of the accomodations. I think being not only willing but happy to take a Thai au pair helped; there were a lot of well qualified Thai au pairs available.
psychohist From: psychohist Date: October 2nd, 2008 04:47 pm (UTC) (Link)
The six ounces is just while Elizabeth is away; she also nurses in the morning before mom leaves, as soon as mom gets home, etc. This was also her first full day away; last week she often held out for 5 hours insisting on the mommy milk dispenser.

She's also only about 2/3 as big as Howard, I think.

Jomkwan has her own room, but she supposedly doesn't have the whole apartment. We're using the other downstairs bedroom as a guest bedroom, and this was hopefully reinforced by the fact that my mother was using it during Jomkwan's first few days. That said, it's nice that she gets her own kitchen most of the time - I'm pretty possessive about my kitchen.
enugent From: enugent Date: October 2nd, 2008 06:36 pm (UTC) (Link)
Howard's 13-15 ounces are also just during the work day - I nurse him in the morning and at night, too. And yes, he is gigantic compared to Margaret.

It will be interesting to see how it evolves, though - will Margaret decide that the bottle and Jomkwan are OK, or will she always hold out for Mommy? I have no doubt that Mommy will always be preferable, but it will be interesting to see how it plays out as Margaret gets used to the new state of affairs.
4 comments or Leave a comment