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Shoes and other clothes
I once read in one woman's blog that she like reading infertility blogs partly because infertiles would occasionally post about other things, like their jobs or better yet new shoes. Of course, then sometimes the women would get pregnant and eventually become moms too busy to buy new shoes for themselves. Since this blog has suddenly turned into all puking all the time (a record four times on Sunday!) it might be nice to post about shoes.

clogs I have new shoes! I used to have a lot of shoes, but threw most of them away when I got married and moved in with my husband. We were renovating the upstairs and there was no room downstairs, so the surplus shoes went. Of course that was over seven years ago, but I've had a hard time finding shoes that meet my standards. I am also very hard on shoes, so attrition has been pretty much keeping up with a acquisition. Prior to the latest purchase I had one pair of fisherman's sandals, one pair of ballerina flats, one pair of brown high heels, and three pairs of boots (and some dance shoes, but they are only worn for dancing and thus do not count). The sandals are pretty clearly summer only in Boston. Likewise the ballerina flats I was finding just did not have enough sole to really be suitable for cold weather wear. This left me with one pair of shoes and the three pairs of boots for winter options. All of the boots have high heels. If I wanted something with less that a three-inch heel this winter I needed something new. I saw these in a catalog while looking for other stuff. I have never owned non-gardening clogs before, and I was a bit worried about their lack of a back, but other than the backlessness they looked practical while still feminine. That's an increasingly hard combination to find, so I took a risk. While the backlessness was initially disturbing, an adjustment of the buckle and a little practice proved enough to deal with it.

Of course the other stuff I was looking for when I found the clogs was larger clothes. (Here is where we devolve back into boring maternity stuff.) My wardrobe was already quite snug as a result of the weight I put on during my IVF cycles and my stubborn refusal to give in and buy new clothes. It did not take much uterine expansion to cause me to outgrow everything overnight. So I ordered a bunch of knit dresses in a size larger than what I normally take, and I went for styles that lacked a defined waist. I now have just barely enough "fat" dresses to get me through the week. I feel much better and was fortunate to find some styles I liked.

I had also ordered some queen sized tights when I was ordering the larger dresses. My normal nylons were driving me crazy. I do not actually recommend this as a solution. The queen size tights were much more comfortable, but the waistband was ending up around my rib cage, about two inches shy of my bra strap. This works for a while, but it feels funny and eventually becomes irritating. I later got some actual maternity tights, and they are so much more comfortable. Of course, they are over twice as expensive as the non maternity ones, so I'll be using the queens for a bit longer.

What led me to actually purchase the maternity tights was my need for new bras. It turns out that the online maternity stores actually had instructions for measuring yourself, and I happened to have a tape measure handy. This was all the excuse I needed. My old 34Bs were probably too small before the pregnancy, and they were getting smaller by the day. The tape measure and instructions led to one heck of a surprise. Long story short, I am now feeling quite comfortable in a 38E, and desperately awaiting the arrival of the rest of my order so I can ditch the 34Bs for the duration. Between the bras, a few pairs of tights, and some new panties I spent well over $300 on new underthings. It seems a little odd to need maternity underthings so early, but I do look pregnant when I'm undressed. Winter clothing will no doubt mask the belly for some months to come, but it's there. It's nice to see it so early, actually, after waiting so very long to get pregnant.
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enugent From: enugent Date: December 4th, 2007 07:06 pm (UTC) (Link)
Good lord! Let me know when you need a source for nursing bras - I got all mine on the internet. I actually broke a 36F when my milk came in - I was just sitting there, vaguely aware that I was feeling a little uncomfortable, and sproing, the strap snapped. But I found a source for a G cup that was very comfortable. (Don't buy more than one or two nursing bras beforehand - you will almost surely estimate the size that you will need incorrectly. Wait until your milk comes in, then measure.)
jaedian From: jaedian Date: December 4th, 2007 10:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
I would have said get nursing bras now. Unless they are a lot more money - they will add some flexibility later on. I went through a whole range of sizes once a started nursing so it was nice to have a collection-you may get back to the 38E after nursing awhile. You may need to get another set towards the end of the pregnancy, definitely get nursing ones.

I am really surprised you are a 38E already. I think I am a 38F or G and I thought I was much larger overall.

I HIGHLY recommend stretch clothing. You size will fluctuate a bunch post pregnancy too, so with any luck you will come back to these dresses post pregnancy.

For bras I like: http://www.birthandbaby.com/ They will often tell you which ones are running smaller or larger. And they help you pick the right type for your shape.

I am quite fond of the Anita line, even though they are expensive.

Also, Isis Maternity had nursing bras in Arlington. http://isismaternity.com/ It can be nice to try them on. I bought some there and then ordered some more of them online.

Ooh, I am so excited for you though! Sorry about the puking, but it still sounds like things are going well.
enugent From: enugent Date: December 4th, 2007 10:23 pm (UTC) (Link)
Birthandbaby.com is where I got mine, too - I just dug back through my email to look it up. They were very helpful when I broke the bra and needed bigger ones right now, too - I called and discussed what she had in inventory, and she shipped them right out. Once sewed up, the broken one fit after a few months.

If you're willing to wear nursing bras now, it does make sense to buy them instead of maternity bras - they cost about the same, and you might get more use out of them. I just meant that it's pretty hard to predict what size nursing bra you'll wear on the basis of your pregnant breasts. I thought I was doing so well being prepared in advance, and it didn't work out for me at all.
greyautumnrain From: greyautumnrain Date: December 5th, 2007 02:59 am (UTC) (Link)
Yes, well I was a bit shocked at the 38E thing myself. I do tend to put on weight disproportionally in the bust and lower belly, though, so I suppose that is why.

Kate had said that you might be a good source for information on larger sizes, and if the expansion on the northern frontier continues at it's current rate it's good to know where to go.
enugent From: enugent Date: December 5th, 2007 06:00 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm more surprised by the 38 than by the E, honestly. Did the site you saw tell you to do the "add 4 or 5 to the measurement" thing? Because that's not correct for larger band sizes. But if the bra is comfortable, that's good.
greyautumnrain From: greyautumnrain Date: December 5th, 2007 11:12 pm (UTC) (Link)
What they said was to add 5 inches, and then one more if the number was odd. So 32 + 5 = 37, + 1 to make it even is 38. I'm just as happy to buy larger given the current weight of expansion on that front. Luckily my overall weight is not shooting up, so there seems to be some redistribution going on here.
enugent From: enugent Date: December 5th, 2007 11:51 pm (UTC) (Link)
Hm. This site (which I've generally found to be reliable) suggests that you are actually a 36F at the moment (making an inference about your bust size from what you've already posted). But 38E isn't that far off, and will allow for some ribcage expansion later in pregnancy (although the cup size may be no good by then).

I remember that it was faintly shocking when first I got to the point that if I walked into a wall, my breasts weren't the first thing to make contact. :) Enjoy the new shoes while you can still see them!
jaedian From: jaedian Date: December 6th, 2007 07:21 pm (UTC) (Link)
exactly. the 38 is remarkable. Since I am a 38 still. Although I used to be a 36, but pregnancy does expand your ribcage. But yes, you will need the bigger band toward the end of your preg. AND every bra is a tad different - some I take a smaller or larger band size. to add to he confusion, if you change the band size the cup size needs to change!

Funny about the SHOES!

I meant to say, you will REALLY appreciate the clogs towards the end of the pregnancy and once the baby arrives. I have all clogs, and really I rarely get to bend down or sit to fasten shoes - so I love to be able to slip them on. And I seem to remember being big enough at the end of the preg to not be able to reach my feet! Snowboots are being a royal pain right now, you can't put them on while holding a baby.
jaedian From: jaedian Date: December 6th, 2007 07:23 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh yes, I know all about large sizes. I was pleased to discover the Arlington Issis had the larger sizes. At least one in most sizes to try on.

And birth and baby has really affordable shipping, so buying a bunch and trying them wasn't too painful.
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