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2 month stats - Elizabeth Unexplained
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greyautumnrain
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2 month stats
Margaret's two month doctor's visit was today. She is now 10 pounds 12 ounces and 23 inches long. That's a gain of two pounds and two inches in the past month. I am not imagining it, she is getting tall. She also had four shots.

As if the shots were not tramatic enough, she was left along without me being in the same building for the first time ever today. I was gone for 90 whole minutes. It was a shock for her, but she did warm up to the idea that her daddy is a reasonable alternative. Little does she know that we are planning leaving her for even longer... my trip was to buy a bed for the au pair to use when she arrives next month.
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psychohist From: psychohist Date: August 20th, 2008 04:35 am (UTC) (Link)
The 90 minutes were pretty amusing. It took Margaret 5 or 10 minutes to realize that her mother wasn't just in the next room or something. Then she became more and more distraught, despite my doing my best to comfort her.

After about 40 minutes Elizabeth called from her destination. I have no idea whether babies can recognize voices over the phone, but it sure seemed like it. After the call, Margaret began calming down, to the point where she was asleep for the last half hour before Elizabeth came home.

The vaccination shots, though ... I kind of feel bad about them even though I know they're good for her. I mean, what can you say to someone who is getting shots from syringes as long as her thighs?
countertorque From: countertorque Date: August 20th, 2008 06:50 pm (UTC) (Link)
In the first few months, I had to remind myself often that being the 2nd favorite person in someone's world is still a very high honor. So, I shouldn't let the fact that I'm often in the presence of the most favorite person make me jealous.

Now at 2, he shows less of a preference. If I'm away for a few days on a business trip, he'll be less interested in spending time with me. After a weekend at home, he will be looking for me to play with him on Monday morning. But even now, there are times when he will decide that I've got things screwed up in some way and run off to find Mama to get it sorted out. Clearly, she's still at the top of the org chart.
enugent From: enugent Date: August 20th, 2008 09:38 pm (UTC) (Link)
I was Dorothy's Most Important Person for a long time, but she has flip-flopped between us a few times since then. I blogged about trying to put her to bed during a serious Daddy phase.
psychohist From: psychohist Date: August 20th, 2008 10:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
I was going to say it doesn't bother me that much - sometimes I feel like I'm getting the better deal because Elizabeth ends up as the default caretaker of an unhappy infant - but I can imagine that situation would be a little disturbing. Or maybe one gets used to working with sobbing toddlers the same way one gets used to working with bawling infants?

The immunization bawling actually did affect me, because (1) it was completely justified on Margaret's part, and (2) it was something we'd purposely done to her. I mean, we talk about putting her in the "baby jail" (crib) and the "straitjacket" (when we bundle her snugly), but that's just joking. I guess this is my first real experience with parental guilt.

I wish I knew whether she realized that it was her mother on the phone, though. She might just have figured it out from my manner, or she might have just gone into "be quiet with strangers" mode, or it might just have been luck, but it really seemed like she heard her mother over the phone and felt better. Do you think a two month old can recognize voices over the phone?
enugent From: enugent Date: August 20th, 2008 10:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
Yes, I think it does get easier to deal with sobbing toddlers, and it helped that I had a solid year of Mommy-preference before she switched into Daddy-mode, but it did hurt. It's not the liking Daddy the bothers me as much as the actively rejecting Mommy part. I got my first "I hate you" a week ago, too, but that one was so clearly untrue and the product of rage against her time-out that it just rolled off of me. I'm not looking forward to hearing it again from a teenager who means it.

Oddly, the immunizations don't bother me all that much. Of course, I'm also the one with the "cure" for the indignity (with both kids, we found that putting them to the breast immediately after the shots made it all better again). I have a much tougher time with letting her learn from her own mistakes without rescuing her from them.

I do think that a two-month-old probably can recognize a voice over the phone. It doesn't sound that different than it would if Elizabeth had called out from the other room, and I'm sure we'd expect her to recognize that. Obviously she doesn't know what a phone is, but hearing the voice may have made her feel that Mommy was around somewhere. Lucky for you guys if that does help, since you (or the au pair) can call Elizabeth at work if Margaret needs to hear her....
greyautumnrain From: greyautumnrain Date: August 21st, 2008 01:29 am (UTC) (Link)
Being number one is nice, but it does have it's price. I'm also aware that most of my appeal at the moment has to do with my role as food source. It's also nice that Warren is the go-to person for burping.
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